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Leaders Go First.

Leaders go first.

In any sense, leadership begins with an example. The best leaders are those who are willing to make the first effort. They’re often the first to arrive, and the last to leave. When they communicate expectations, they are willing and able to follow up with a demonstration. True leaders will never ask someone to do something they wouldn’t. Leaders understand the operation and can step in whenever needed… but they know when and what to delegate, and empower those around them to seize opportunities.

True leaders are not threatened by your growth. Instead, they encourage it, because they know that the success of any community rests on their ability to develop prominent, capable, impactful leaders.

Leaders don’t gatekeep; they open doors to new possibilities.

Leaders don’t dictate; they communicate.

Leaders don’t micromanage; they guide.

Leaders listen and encourage healthy discussion, and remain calm and measured when delivering feedback. Leaders hold others *and* themselves accountable to the same standards. In times of conflict, leaders work toward solutions that make all involved parties better.

Leaders build and participate in a community in order to understand its needs, and to determine how they are best equipped to serve those needs. Leaders are not interested in power, but in doing their part as tone-setters to produce impact at the collective and individual levels. To accomplish this, leaders must have good judgment as to when and how to get involved – and sometimes, that means stepping back from the spotlight to let others shine. Leaders don’t need credit for your accomplishments. Seeing you achieve is credit enough, as it signals your emergence from the stable, nurturing environment they have helped produce.

Leadership is not a trait or a title bestowed upon us from somebody else. It’s an intrinsic understanding of the challenges facing our communities, and our ability to produce solutions.

Regardless of title, experience level, or one’s station in life, there is a leader inside each of us.

We find that leader by first getting in touch with our own values, utilizing our experiences and the perspectives gained to inform our idea of a better world. We adopt the consistent actions that align with those values, and make it our mission to address anything standing in the way. From there, our vision takes shape. What does that better world look like? Sound like? Feel like? What impact is brought about by the change we create, and who benefits?

How is that impact bigger than any one individual’s success?

Once we’ve answered that question, it becomes much easier to attract and build alongside our fellow builders. We offer each other support, accountability, and guidance. We approach each other with humility and respect for the unique perspectives, traits, and abilities that each individual possesses. All the while, each individual’s sword is sharpened by the growing sense of community. As we continue leading ourselves to do our part, the example we set inspires those around us to develop the leader within.

Leaders produce more leaders, and leaders grow together.

P.S.: We’re growing our own international community of leaders – artists and creatives alike – as we re-define the music industry. If this piece resonated with you, consider becoming an UnderDog!

7 of Our Favorite Artist Discoveries from Folk Alliance 2026

Last week, the UnderDogs had the pleasure of returning to New Orleans, where we attended Folk Alliance International for the first time. The four-day conference and festival brings 3,000 of the genre’s leading artists and industry professionals together from around the world for networking, panels, workshops and, of course, showcases.

If you’ve never been to Folk Alliance, let us set the scene. After connecting via conference programming during the day, attendees stayed put at the Sheraton in downtown New Orleans to enjoy multiple levels of official showcases curated by the Folk Alliance braintrust. After those wrap up around 10 p.m., the real fun begins!

Registered attendees are then invited to take the elevator up a few levels, where multiple blocks of hotel rooms have been repurposed as performance venues, hosted into the wee hours by a small army of curators from around the world. With so many musicians in one place, we had a lot of ground to cover — and rest assured, there was no shortage of talent walking those halls!

We were so inspired by the week’s many memorable performances that we compiled a short list of some of our favorite acts from this year’s conference. It was tremendously hard to narrow this list down to just seven amazing artists, but we feel this list gives you a good cross-section of what to expect when you join us in Chicago for Folk Alliance International 2027!

Buddy Red

Although he’s based in Atlanta, Buddy Red showed up to Folk Alliance in true New Orleans fashion, serving up a deliciously timeless gumbo seasoned with blues, rock, funk, and more. Buddy’s live performances not only present him as a versatile songwriter, but as a charismatic frontman whose contagious energy and vast technical ability combine for an experience not to be missed.

Jack Barksdale

At just 18 years old, the Fort Worth-based songsmith showcases advanced songwriting ability and a world awareness well beyond his years. Barksdale’s Dylan-esque stage quips are thoughtfully delivered between songs, and his deft technical skill – combined with inventive prog-folk arrangements – give the folk genre an exciting new star to watch.

Jared Deck

We may be headquartered in the home of country music, but Tulsa can stake its claim as the hometown of the most authentically country artist we’ve witnessed in a long time. Deck – an elected official whose job description entails “listening to the people and telling their stories” – provides earnest anecdotes about everyday life. His powerful baritone voice adds color and weight to every story, painting a picture so vivid that you’d swear you were there as it unfolded.

Ashley Virginia

Above all else, folk music is a vehicle best driven by the unfiltered truth, and Ashley Virginia is not afraid to get behind the wheel. Hailing from North Carolina, Ashley’s inventive lyricism lifts the veil to reveal their most personal thoughts and experiences, while their standout artistic flair commands attention in any room. A true performer, Ashley has a knack for audience connection, offering hope through vulnerability, and activism in the face of injustice.

CAOIMHÍN

Hailing from Dublin, Ireland, CAOIMHÍN’s songwriting maintains its roots in Celtic folk tradition, while his arrangements – rich with danceable grooves and otherworldly ambiance – take his music into a unique stratosphere. Futurist themes open up a world of exciting possibilities to the listener, while this innovative songsmith rips up the rulebooks to usher in a rich New Age of Irish music.

Sina Theil

For a moment, let’s keep our focus on emerging acts from Dublin. In 2015, Sina Theil moved to The Fair City to pursue a career as a musician – even if it meant busking on the streets and earning her way to opportunities. Fast forward more than a decade, and Sina’s diligence, talent, and inspiring presence have helped her find incredible success – including 26 #1 songs on the Irish iTunes charts, and the ability to reach audiences an ocean away.

Sean Ardoin

Bringing things back around to Louisiana, this Lake Charles native comes from a multi-generational family legacy in the world of Creole and Zydeco music. His own spin on the region’s musical traditions has birthed a unique genre he calls “Kreole Rock & Soul,” a fun and familiar sound that simultaneously dismantles genre barriers. This dynamic listening experience is turned up another notch during Ardoin’s spirited live performances, where his larger-than-life presence inspires people from all walks of life to get out of their seats. If you want a performer who will give you his all – and sound great doing it – Sean Ardoin is your guy.

Artists Have Had Enough.

Artists have had enough.

Artists are ready for change. Artists are ready for action.

Artists are tired of having their voices suppressed by an algorithm. By a gatekeeper. By a tech company and its “robots.”

Artists want what they’ve always wanted: to create, connect, and inspire. To impact change, and leave the world a better place than the one they found.

Artists don’t want to “optimize the creative process.” They embody the creative process.

And somehow, in this hyper-automated, “profits before people” type of world… that became a bad thing?

Artists deserve a seat at the table, and we’re giving them one.

We’re booking them shows. We’re bringing them to industry events across state and country borders. We’re celebrating their milestones. In the process, we’re connecting with artists and industry changemakers from all over the world because we believe that, if enough of us can get on the same page, we can change the game for the better.

We can create an ecosystem built on sound moral and business principles; one which allows space for art so rich and diverse in scope that it becomes the new standard.

We’re here to create a new music industry: one where Creators Have the Power.

There is no art without artists. There is no music industry without musicians.

It’s time to give them their rightful seat at the table.

The Blog Turns 10 Years Old!

This past Sunday, January 18 marked 10 years since we officially launched.

Things looked a bit different back then. For one thing, Nashville was not yet a twinkle in our eyes. We were based in Bethlehem, PA, where we opened our digital doors to little fanfare as the plucky upstart, Lehigh Valley Underground.

I had just moved back to Bethlehem, my college town, the previous spring. I had worked as Event Staff for ArtsQuest since Musikfest 2014, and secured a PR & Marketing Coordinator job right next door at PBS39 by year’s end. After relocating from New Jersey in May 2015, The Quinn Spinn had gone into hibernation, and our entire fledgling platform faced an uncertain future, amid my and the group’s collective life changes.

I knew that I wanted to keep going, but I felt like the show would function better as part of a greater whole. That’s when I decided to try my hand at starting a music review blog. The first iteration was a short-lived Tumblr blog under The Quinn Spinn banner.

Then, after a night out on the scene in early September, it clicked.

I looked around at my surroundings. Bethlehem — and the Lehigh Valley as a whole — has long had a talent-rich music scene. And, with ArtsQuest playing host to the nation’s largest free, ungated music festival since 1984, it even had more industry infrastructure than most markets its size. There were even a handful of independent media outlets promoting local happenings. It felt like the right time to add a new voice to the region’s music landscape.

The following week, I began brainstorming. It didn’t take me long to come up with the name; we were in the Lehigh Valley, and we’d be giving shine to the original (i.e.; Underground) music scene. I went to work on a logo, and the early sketches involved designing the letters “LVU” entirely out of sewer pipes. You know… because pipes run underground.

Fortunately, I wasn’t a talented enough graphic designer to pull that off, so the idea never gained steam. I needed something simpler and text-based, and it needed to be gritty. So, I opened up Illustrator and, lo and behold, found the perfect typeface — Almaq Rough. From there, I pulled up a stock image of an acoustic guitar, put a sketch filter over it, and we had THIS beaut…

…which I immediately recognized looked terrible and was difficult to read. So, I changed the text to all white against the grey backdrop.

Still not my prettiest work to date, but it would do!

I would spend the next couple months building the backend of the website — yes, this very site that you’re currently visiting! I started contacting artists whom we had featured throughout The Quinn Spinn’s run, offering them the opportunity to be among the first featured on our new blog. I also decided to hold off on our official launch until January. After all, the holidays aren’t typically the best time to launch a new thing, and I was just beginning to process the sudden loss of my mother that September. I had spent much of the fall easing back into everyday life, and wanted to be sure that I didn’t overload myself. Work on the project resumed in November, after the Cubs had been eliminated from the playoffs in quick and hilarious fashion by the Mets in the NLCS. I no longer had a distraction, so it was once again time for an outlet.

Finally, on January 18 — Martin Luther King Jr. Day, because I had the full day off from work — I lifted the veil. We published our first features. Lehigh Valley Underground was live!

Immediately, I started venturing out onto the scene. I started connecting with artists and independent other media outlets. I also began observing the climate of the local ecosystem and one of its landmark events, the Lehigh Valley Music Awards (LVMAs). I worked the 2016 event in my Event Staff role at ArtsQuest, and I came away impressed with the production. However, I was disappointed with the behavior of those who came up short that night, who let their vitriol fly in seemingly every comment section in the region after the show.

So, I did what any complete unknown with a six-week-old music blog would do.

I wrote this.

I took a deep breath before hitting “Publish,” knowing that one of two things would happen: it would establish LVU as an emerging voice in the local music landscape, or it would get us blacklisted from everywhere.

To my delight, it was the former. The LVMAs shared the post and, a few months later, invited us to take part in their official showcase at Musikfest. I started to hear my co-workers and the leadership team at ArtsQuest begin to talk about this new Lehigh Valley Underground thing. The region’s prominent artists began submitting their music and inviting us to cover their gigs. I found myself at more events all over the Valley, I continued improving as a photographer, and all of a sudden, we had a local music movement on our hands.

The rest, as they say, is history — and I’m excited to take a deeper look at that entire history throughout UMC’s 10th Anniversary year.

In the spirit of everyone on the internet talking about 2016, there’s no better time to look back on our roots. They tell the story of where we’ve been, and hold many important keys that we’ll need on the road ahead. 2016 marked a new beginning, and those early days, the lessons learned, and a decade’s worth of twists and turns have led us to the point where we’re still standing, 10 years later, and once again ready to travel the world, as we work to connect independent creatives everywhere.

We hope you enjoy the ride alongside us. 10 years of The Blog, and we’re still just getting started.

Learning to Trust the Process

Pictured: The Toronto skyline from the top floor of Hotel X — one of the many places we traveled throughout 2025 as a result of trusting the process.

True depth and meaning cannot be manufactured. It must be developed in the process.

The process of creating. The process of being. The process of experiencing life with no attachment to outcomes. When we try to force the meaning, or control the result of each moment and interaction, we lose something very important: the opportunity for a beautiful, unique story to weave itself out of the ether and into the fabric of our existence. 

Think about moments when things have gone well. Did you take those moments in stride, as positive feedback that the journey you’re on is the right one? That the process you’ve put into place is working? Or, did you see those moments as the ultimate triumph; the finish line you’ve been waiting to cross, only to find that life still goes on, with or without us.

Even in moments when our dreams come true, the sun still rises the next day. Don’t get caught dreaming too long, or you’ll miss what’s next.

The same goes for our unfavorable outcomes. Do you dwell on them? Do you resent people, places, or situations for not giving you what you want? Were you so attached to the outcome that you forgot to savor the experience or learn the lesson? Or, did you take *those* moments in stride as evidence that it might be time to try something different?

Did you regret trying those different things, or did they lead to cherished memories, aligned and supportive new relationships, and amazing experiences — all of which you’d never have had, had you gotten what you wanted in the first place?

No matter the outcome, there is beauty we can only see once we’ve learned to trust the process.

The process is where life itself happens.

Want to Improve the Music Industry? Start Listening to the Artists

We exist in a music industry that seeks to convince artists and consumers alike that efficiency and optimization matter more than truth; that creating as a means to an end is more important than the sanctity of the creative process itself.

For years, the industry-prescribed blueprint for artist success has been as follows: Chase trends. Go viral. Write and record the music that we know will sell, regardless of what *you* want to pursue creatively. Oh, and get those social and streaming numbers up. Otherwise, we won’t take you seriously, and we won’t even have a productive conversation with you in the first place.

Oh, and that’s not even getting into all of this AI stuff. Personally, I’m not against AI as a companion tool to enhance your business processes. For example, if you need something to help optimize your email marketing process, so you can get back to what you’re *actually* here to create – and you can’t afford to hire a human – it’s reasonable to delegate that work to your hypervirtual assistant. In that case, you’ll free up time to focus on your piece of this – the creation itself.

However, this notion that AI could somehow *replace* the artist – that, for the sake of optimization, it can and should be used to generate music, images, video, and tell the stories that human artists have been telling for centuries – is a slap to the collective face of creators everywhere. The art that inspires us (and whose data exists within these servers to be replicated, not duplicated, and certainly never improved upon) was created from genuine human experiences by living creative beings. Each song, image, novel, or film tells the story of the individual moment and its own unique conditions – events that can only truly be experienced alongside other living things, and the world in which we live.

But, I digress…

The over-optimization of the creative process – where the focus is not on connection, but consumption – is at odds with the innovative spirit of the independent artist. Straighten up, fly right, and do what we say… or we’ll just find the next person who will, and you’ll be left fighting Spotify for fractions of a cent with all of your other aUtHeNtIc, oRiGiNaL indie buddies.

Feels hopeless, doesn’t it? Especially when you consider that those who put this structure in place are also the ones who hold the cards…

…under this model of the industry.

We need an alternative.

The industry is in dire need of people with fresh ideas. The artists have them. They’re the ones who have observed from the bottom of the totem pole for as long as there has been a music industry. They’re crafty, resourceful, and they know what it takes to persevere and keep going. They’ve also seen everything that’s wrong with this version of the music industry, and therefore, have the best perspective on how to make it better.

Artists understand business. They understand that, to build your passion into a career, it takes more than just talent, good looks, or a viral moment. It takes waking up every morning – sometimes after a long night – and putting in consistent effort over years. Decades, even. It takes balancing the creative process with other jobs, school, business responsibilities, relationships, family obligations, and their own checkbooks. It means a lot of trial and error; each time they get something wrong, big or small, they must learn to trust themselves all over again, and strive to get it just a little more right the next time.

You want dedication? You want commitment? You want someone who has meticulously developed a versatile skillset? Someone who is going to keep working, and who will keep getting back up every time they’re knocked down? Look to your local independent artist. A savvy one is the best business partner you could ever have.

Oh… and did I mention that they’re the reason we even *have* an industry in the first place? There is no art without artists. And there certainly wouldn’t be any AI slop without them, either.

The artists deserve seats at the table, and we all need to hear what they have to say.

As we head into 2026, Underground Music Collective pledges to provide a forum for these artists. Through our multimedia content, live experiences, expanding suite of Artistpreneur services, and travels to music industry events across multiple continents, we will elevate our creative community to have their music and their voices heard around the musical world.

Here in Nashville, 2026 also provides an opportunity to enhance our ability to serve the local community with our own dedicated physical creation spaces. Updates on that project are expected soon.

Thank you for making 2025, without question, our Best Year Ever. We’ve loved every minute.

If you loved that, though? Wait until you see what’s to come.

Take ‘The Leap’

January marks five years since I took the leap from my last corporate job.

“The leap” will teach you everything you need to know about yourself — professionally, as well as personally. It lands you in a high-stakes wilderness that holds up a mirror; one where you see, in full view, that all which you attract is a reflection of how you currently view yourself.

“The leap” requires boldness. The boldness to communicate a truth that only you can see. The boldness to say yes to possibility and accept any associated risk. The boldness to say no to fear — or, for that matter, anything or anyone that pulls you in a direction incongruous with the one you’ve chosen in this season.

(And, if you’re a recovering people pleaser like me, that last part will be the hardest — and the most essential — hurdle to clear.)

You take “the leap” when you know what is inside you. You may have trouble articulating or putting it into practice at first. Regardless, you’re going to have to learn sometime, and so, you’ve chosen now. “The leap” requires you to become the person who can bring your ideal vision to reality. That means understanding who you are right now — strengths and weaknesses alike. That means changing what needs to change — even if it’s uncomfortable for you or others.

Many will admire you. Others will lament the change, and a few of those may lurk in the shallows like crabs, waiting for an opportunity to pull you back into their bucket. This is where understanding your values is especially important.

Will you cave to the pressure and conform?

Will you revert back to your previous state?

Or, will you stand up for the version of you that so craved change, that they inspired this leap in the first place?

In the end, it’s not about being admired. It’s not about impressing anyone, and you certainly don’t need to worry about proving anything. You took this leap to become who you are called to be.

That person is good. That person is worthy. That person is loved right now. That person has gifts and wisdom to share through the lens of a unique life.

Your reward for sharing, should you keep going, is the opportunity to live so authentically that your impact — your ability to leave this world better than you found it — cannot be denied.

You know what’s inside of you — the ability to create a life so memorable that it serves as a blueprint to others trying to get in touch with what’s inside of them.

You have a purpose to serve. You have a voice — and many people have kept theirs muted, for fear of judgment or being ostracized.

You have a vision. Don’t let the noise distract you. Lock in, let ’em talk, and stay on the path.

Appreciate the love, as it is a beautiful reflection of the love you have to give. Always look to reciprocate kindness, support, and care.

Take any opportunity you can to make somebody’s day. Discover how your purpose can help someone else walk in theirs.

Don’t ever stop working on your vision — or yourself.

You’re a leader in the way you dig in and do the work. You’re not afraid of making a mess — because sometimes, it’s the first step toward finally clearing the clutter.

Messes are problems that force us to find solutions. They teach us how to show up better and with more direct intention. They show us which actions and relationships to repeat, as well as which to avoid. They teach us the right way, by inviting us to detour through the wrong.


Personally, I’m glad I’ve made it this far past “the leap.” I wasn’t always sure I would. I’ve let fear pull me from purpose on occasion, and in especially lean times, I almost retreated entirely, in favor of good ol’ corporate sTaBiLiTy. 

And, just when I thought I was done, I couldn’t rip myself away from this mission: to give a platform to those daring enough to create. Those still standing — no matter what has happened.

Same as it’s been since 2013, and as it will be in 2025, 2026, and beyond.

What change will you create next?

Take the leap.

Are We Doomed? Or Have We Yet to Access Our Own Power?

For all of the talk about AI’s industry takeover, and the ways “the algorithm” unfairly stacks the deck against artists, maybe it’s time to ask ourselves a different question…

What if, instead of catering to the algorithm — the latest in a long line of industry gatekeepers outlined in the video I’m about to share below — we focus on the power we have as a community to build authentic relationships with fans, fellow creatives, and our entrepreneurs across industries?

What if, instead of claiming victimhood in an unfair ecosystem (and often, offering no real solution alongside our complaints), we empower ourselves to create a new one?

What if, instead of begging for a seat at “the big table,” we build our own table?

Yes, there are plenty of problems with the ways creatives are regarded and compensated in the business world. That’s because the business world in which we currently reside was not created by us.

When creatives function like entrepreneurs, the power resides in our hands. When we build brands, communities, and new ways of doing business, we find common ground not only with other creatives who have felt our pain, but with consumers who are looking for something that speaks to them more readily than what’s pumped out through “the machine.”

When we treat the tools at our disposal (AI, streaming, social media, etc.) like supplemental tools to create and maintain connections — instead of be-all, end-all solutions that are “supposed to” bring us to virality, fame, and fortune (i.e.; do all the work for us) — we can better manage our expectations, and focus on the real-world actions and relationships that will help us grow our communities and build a more sustainable ecosystem over time.

Instead of relying on the algorithm to make you visible, take it upon yourself to get in front of people. Instead of expecting Spotify and other DSPs to change their tune about royalty payouts and AI-created music, encourage and incentivize your audience to purchase directly from you. Develop ways to make them feel like they’re not just spending money, but investing in a vision for a greater world.

Provide value, and do business while consistently providing that value.

“Business” is not a dirty word. Learning how to do it properly — in a way that provides and increases value for all stakeholders over time — is the key to finally leveling this playing field.

I’ve presented at and attended some of the biggest music conferences in the world throughout 2025, and have had conversations with thought leaders across the creative space. I assure you that, in all corners, we are asking similar questions: how do we give creators the power?

We already have it. It’s time to accept it, wield it responsibly, and remain consistent over time. It’s time to test, measure, adjust, and develop better, creator-centric solutions. I’ll never tell you it’s easy: the creative journey is a long game, and overnight success is fleeting at best, and non-existent in reality.

Would you rather it be easy or impactful?

It’s not about fighting City Hall. It’s about building new cities.

With that, I came across this TED Talk featuring Kickstarter co-founder Yancey Strickler, who offers a solution as to how we can structure our businesses in a creator-friendly manner. It’s already inspiring plenty of ideas for me, and I hope it does the same for you.

Have a great weekend. And, if my rant inspired you to continue this conversation, you know where to find me.

-G

Wednesday Wisdom: Hate Networking? Here’s What to Do

Do you shudder when someone drops the word “networking”?

Same.

Whether you’re planning on attending an in-person event or trying to connect online with other people in your field, networking is something so many of us dread. Just the thought of it can stir up anxiety, and imposter syndrome, and all of the uncomfortable feelings that general social interaction can produce.

But it doesn’t have to be that way!

Here are my best tips for taking the work out of networking and making it something that you might even–dare I say–enjoy.

Take the pressure off.

    The term “networking” can be so incredibly intimidating. But networking is actually something that we do naturally every day without even thinking about, which is forming relationships.

    If you’ve made friends at all in this life, you’ve had plenty of practice.

    So if you’re someone who, like me, despises networking in the traditional sense of the word, and you feel pressure to make the most of every networking situation you’re in, it’s helpful to first remember that you likely already have all the skills you need to network effectively because you’re a human on planet Earth.

    Then try to redefine your goals. 

    Maybe instead of convincing yourself that you have to meet everyone in the room (or virtual group), this time focus on genuinely connecting with one person. It’s a strategy that I’ve used myself, and guess what? It helped me shake off the anxiety and pressure I was putting on myself because meeting one person–just one–is an extremely realistic goal

    You don’t climb every rung on a ladder at once do you? Of course not! So why overwhelm yourself with meeting all the people, and doing all the things, all at once?

    Although it may feel small, meeting one person, especially when you’re nervous to begin with, is still very much a valid success. Not to mention that it can help give you the confidence to meet more people going forward. 

    Focus on finding common ground.

      If the hardest part of networking for you is making small talk, or just plain opening a conversation with someone new, one of the easiest ways to break the ice is starting on common ground.

      If you’re at an in-person event, something as simple as making a comment on the venue or town can be an effective way of making that initial connection. And, yes, as played out as it might sound, you can even talk about the weather. It’s a boring topic, but it works.

      If you’re trying to connect with someone professionally through Instagram, but you’re afraid of outward rejection (or, let’s be honest, being left on read), start by pointing out a mutual acquaintance. They’ll likely be more likely to respond if they know you share a friend.

      Finding common ground can help connect people in any setting, especially when it comes to networking.

      Look for people you know.

        Sure, you might not be able to do this in every situation, but it always helps to find a friendly face in a room you’re feeling uncomfortable in, whether you’re at an in-person event or interacting virtually in a Facebook or LinkedIn group.

        It’s important to remember here that you shouldn’t stay glued to the people you know, as much as you might want to. You probably don’t know everyone, or perhaps anyone, they know, so think of them instead as facilitators who can help introduce you to other people.

        And if you can’t find someone you know, try talking to the person who is leading or organizing the event. More often than not, they are happy to chat and even do the hard work for you by introducing you to the people in the room they think you might click with!

        Remember everything you bring to the table.

          It can be easy when we’re in certain situations, especially big networking events, to feel like we’re not as accomplished as the people around us or like we don’t belong in the room. 

          Although comparisonitis is very real, the reality is that you bring a unique perspective that no one else has (you know, that no two snowflakes are the same theory and all that). You have legit skills to offer and different life experiences than the person standing next to you. 

          Your knowledge is valuable. 

          And more importantly, you are inherently valuable. Which means you have as much right to be in that room–and on this planet, for that matter–as anyone else.

          Networking can be downright nerve-wracking, whether it’s in a virtual setting or in person, but when it comes to forming connections, what works for some may not work for everyone. Luckily, there are all different kinds of strategies that can help you find success–you just have to find the approach that best works for you.

          Wednesday Wisdom: How to Deal with Disappointment

          Disappointment really sucks, doesn’t it?

          Although it’s a natural and very unavoidable part of life, it still hurts when it happens, and it can be difficult to cope with.

          It’s so easy to feel discouraged and defeated when we’re faced with disappointment, but it’s how we deal afterward that makes all the difference.

          If you’ve just come face to face with disappointment, here are some of my best tips for moving forward.

          Acknowledge and experience your feelings.

          One of the best ways to deal with disappointment–or any difficult situation for that matter–is to allow yourself to feel your feelings.

          You’re entitled to feel how you feel, and it’s important to recognize what those feelings are. Whether you’re angry, sad, or discouraged, name it, sit with it, and reflect on why you’re feeling that way.

          Of course, disappointment ranges in severity, from momentary, forgettable disappointments (like your favorite ice cream being out of stock at the grocery store) to what can seem like devastating setbacks (like being passed over for your dream job). So if you need to cry, let the tears rise to the surface. If you need to let out all that pent up frustration, hit the gym or punch a pillow.

          Acknowledging your feelings is one of the healthiest things you can do to move on.  

          Accept the situation.

          Yep, you were disappointed. And yes, you probably wish you weren’t.

          It might take a while for you to process the situation, and that is 100% okay. Don’t put pressure on yourself to get over it, and don’t judge yourself for taking the time to digest what happened.

          However, there is major power to be found in acceptance. At the most basic level, acceptance is acknowledging reality and relinquishing control of a situation that is out of your hands. 

          Trust me, I know how hard it can be to reach acceptance after disappointment. By doing so, it may feel like you’re giving up or that you’re telling yourself that you’re okay with what happened. But that’s not actually what you’re doing. Acceptance can help you make peace with the disappointment while empowering you to move forward with clarity.

          Recognize the positives.

          Even though disappointment can feel truly devastating in the moment, there is always a bright side, no matter the situation.

          Sure, it might be hard to spot at first, but when you’re able to find the light peaking through the clouds, it changes your perspective.

          Maybe that disappointment happened because there’s something better waiting for you to claim. Maybe that disappointment happened because you weren’t prepared to receive the outcome you wanted yet. (If you believe in a little thing called divine timing, you know exactly what I’m talking about)

          And if you’re just so mad and upset that you’re really not able to see the upside, reflect on your life and recognize everything you have to be grateful for. I guarantee that you’ll find a lot when you start looking.

          As an added bonus, when you start practicing gratitude, you’re training your brain to see the good in life, which means you’ll naturally be able to see more of it every day, and isn’t that a wonderful way to experience the world?

          Spend time doing what you love.

          Having hobbies and projects that light you up inside is super important when it comes to living a full and satisfying life. They are an important tool that can help get you through the bad times.

          After being disappointed, doing something you love gets those feel-good hormones pumping in your brain and gives your mind a break.

          Whether you love cooking or painting, crafting or reading, doing something you love can also help you feel productive and provide you with a sense of control at a time when you feel like you don’t have control over anything. 

          Take the time to fill your cup. Your mind and body will thank you for it.
          Disappointment is a natural part of life, but instead of getting consumed by it and letting it keep you down, there are plenty of ways we can cope with the hurt and come out stronger on the other side.

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